Am I the only one who has to learn lessons the hard way, over and over, before the facts finally set in?
The class I’m attending has a complete syllabus of life’s lessons. Even if one or two lessons aren’t in their curriculum, I’m managing to sneak in a learning experience or two.
One lesson I’m learning is about self-disclosure.
My tendency is to over-share … with friends, acquaintances, and total strangers.
There have been a few people in my life that jumped from the Total Stranger category to the Best Friend (or so I thought) category way too fast.
I’ve not made that mistake just once.
I’m too trusting. I’m too open with the details of my life.
This type of openness attracts a certain type of person, I’m discovering. Don’t get me wrong, I have made some great friends via my openness. But of course, there will always be “snakes in the grass.”
These snakes have little going on in their own lives.
These snakes have an innate ability to sense drama.
These snakes should just get cable and watch soap operas all day.
“You’re an interesting person.”
If I hear any variation of this, ever again, I will step back and take a better look at the person. What are their intentions? Are they bored with their own lives …and have they sensed the dramatic past, having to do with my children?
The drawback of being in the midst of learning to be less self-disclosing is that it’s a work in progress. ..catching yourself saying something, realizing that it’s probably too much information, but they’ve already heard a portion of the story.
Should you continue and give the details? or do you hold it all back and hope that they don’t make up their own version?
We live. We learn.
How do you deal with the slanderous snake? I’m still learning that lesson.